Complaining And Unnecessary Negativity

[looksgoodinred]

Like many people, I have a love-hate relationship with complaining. There is little that is more satisfying than chewing over a meaty complaint about an idiotic service person or the really annoying thing that friend does or how unbelievably rude a teenager can be.

 

On the other hand, I really dislike people who constantly whine about the same thing. Or those who come to me seemingly wanting advice but then ignore my suggestions and continue grumbling about the same grievance.

 

“Psychologically, it’s really unhealthy to squelch complaints,” said Guy Winch, a psychologist and author of “The Squeaky Wheel.” “By not complaining aloud, it doesn’t mean the dissatisfaction has gone away. You’re just not voicing it.”

 

Some complaints serve as an icebreaker or a bonding experience. Grousing about the weather or traffic is an easy way to start a conversation or simply to avoid standing silently next to each other in an elevator.

 

“It’s one way to create rapport,” said Joanna Wolfe, a professor of English at Carnegie-Mellon University whose research focuses on communication styles. Complaining about a late bus with other riders, for instance, “creates kind of a solidarity,” she said. “I’ve made friends that way.”

 

While women do not complain more than men, Professor Wolfe said, they seem to because of the way they complain. They are more likely to complain rather than request an action, she said, such as saying, “It’s cold in here,” rather than asking to shut a window or turn up the heat.

 

Men, on the other hand, tend to complain more to bolster their egos, she said — attacking a politician’s stance, for example, to show their own astuteness.

 

“A lot of research has been done that shows complaining is damaging to health, relationships and careers,” he said. “When people go 21 days without a complaint, they say they are happier.”

 

Could you go 21 days without being unduly negative? Complaining in such a way that it only moves towards a solution, rather than just whining?

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/04/your-money/the-satisfaction-and-annoyance-of-complaining.html?pagewanted=all&src=ISMR_AP_LO_MST_FB

[The Boofon]

What a rubbish thread. Reported.

[looksgoodinred]

on the upside, at least you did something about your complaint, and didn't just whine.

 

[chief_wiggum]

On the subject of complaining, I'm complaining that you removed the recent avatar showing a bit o cleavage and replaced it with a picture of yer fit!

[daytripping]

+1 LGIR,

 

I try to remain positive about most things and go through life with a smile on my face for the most, life is too short to be mumping and moaning day in day out. I have my moments of weakness but not too often.

 

It's nice to be nice.

[fatshaft]

+1 LGIR,

 

I try to remain positive about most things and go through life with a smile on my face for the most, life is too short to be mumping and moaning day in day out. I have my moments of weakness but not too often.

 

It's nice to be nice.

[Ke1t]

+1 LGIR,

 

I try to remain positive about most things and go through life with a smile on my face for the most, life is too short to be mumping and moaning day in day out. I have my moments of weakness but not too often.

 

It's nice to be nice.

 

Agree with this.

 

I'm a remorselessly upbeat fucker in my personal life, and have no time for whiny greeting faced negative bitches either online or in real life. I'm just not interested in their shit.

 

Aberdonians are amongst the whiniest, most defeatist, 'Ye-canna-dae-that-minded cunts I've encountered in my life, most of present company excepted, of course.. but not all.

 

If you show any kind of individuality, personality, or confidence around Aberdonians... well, just look what happened to anyone like that who posted on AdMad.

 

I say Fuck Off to being peer-pressured into acting like some bland, humourless, personality-free Aberdonian just to 'fit in'.

 

If anyone finds themselves conforming to that kind of mindset... shoot yourself.

[daytripping]

Agree with this.

 

I'm a remorselessly upbeat fucker in my personal life, and have no time for whiny greeting faced negative bitches either online or in real life. I'm just not interested in their shit.

 

Aberdonians are amongst the whiniest, most defeatist, 'Ye-canna-dae-that-minded cunts I've encountered in my life, most of present company excepted, of course.. but not all.

 

If you show any kind of individuality, personality, or confidence around Aberdonians... well, just look what happened to anyone like that who posted on AdMad.

 

I say Fuck Off to being peer-pressured into acting like some bland, humourless, personality-free Aberdonian just to 'fit in'.

 

If anyone finds themselves conforming to that kind of mindset... shoot yourself.

 

+1 pal!

 

Agree with this 100%.

 

Have a laugh, get on with people, don't take life too seriously, you're a fucking long time dead, at least try and enjoy your small time here.

 

Peace out!

[daytripping]

The mad cull was bizarre, anyone who had an opinion or laugh outside the death to thatcher brigade got the chop, I don't even recall the last time I looked in, has went so far downhill it just isn't worth it.

 

At least the likes of me and you are appreciated here kelt, gives me a warm fuzzy feeling,

 

When we were cold and homeless this place took us in and we've never looked back.

[fatshaft]

The mad cull was bizarre, anyone who had an opinion or laugh outside the death to thatcher brigade got the chop, I don't even recall the last time I looked in, has went so far downhill it just isn't worth it.

 

At least the likes of me and you are appreciated here kelt, gives me a warm fuzzy feeling,

 

When we were cold and homeless this place took us in and we've never looked back.

Kelt is appreciated, as he's got a very good sense of humour, unfortunately since you arrived, this place has gone increasingly downhill, which accelerated after that unfortunate kicking you got. I'd be getting your head checked out if I was you, something nae right there.

 

Wonder why you were banned from Mad?

[looksgoodinred]

On the subject of complaining, I'm complaining that you removed the recent avatar showing a bit o cleavage and replaced it with a picture of yer fit!

 

not into toe cleavage, Chief?

[chief_wiggum]

not into toe cleavage, Chief?

Rather see yer camel toe Feet don't really do it for me.

[looksgoodinred]

Rather see yer camel toe Feet don't really do it for me.

 

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