I Liked This

[terenceandphilip]

its all about 'liking' these days. I'm nearly amazed fb caught on in sunny aberdeen. Most popular threads over on mad are like 'what pisses you?' or 'what does your nut'

 

anyway, i liked this article. I nearly posted it on mad, but it didn't deserve it. For kelt at least (and i'm sure others) have a read. God bless the internet and fuck know-alls to hell. :-)

 

http://thehairpin.com/2013/05/what-the-hell-should-you-do-with-your-life

 

 

 

 

I thought it was all on the money, but this was my favourite line:

 

"Most people are completely full of shit, but sound like they know what they’re talking about."

 

I'll take that, especially 'most' as in over 50%. I'd be glad if phoenix and his son come across it too. :-) and maybe spamspamspam.

 

 

Happy days. Sometimes.

 

 

 

 

[daytripping]

Article is too long for here, would have been better putting it on mad.

 

I gave up after 30 seconds.

[dervish]

Article is too long for here, would have been better putting it on mad.

 

I gave up after 30 seconds.

 

Ditto. Started reading met a girl. By the time I got as far as the bit 'Don’t Get Married and Have Kids' my 2 yr old son was racing around to much to continue. What is the point of it?

[terenceandphilip]

no point really, just have a skim.

 

 

i'm not one for long articles either, its just struck a chord i guess.

[terenceandphilip]

this might be better

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

point being, and nor should they really i guess. When tired sleep, when hungry eat.

 

night night :-)

[Ke1t]

I think the most important thing in your life will be your parents.

 

If they're scum, and more interested in themselves than what their kids do, then the kid doesn't have a chance.

 

If you're going to have a kid you need to understand that you need to dedicate a huge portion of your life to raising that child, and teaching it the things that school doesn't. School teaches you to read, write, count, and very little else... the actual life lessons need to be imparted by the parent. So when the kid leaves school he, or she, isn't some mindless, directionless drone who can read and write, but actually hits the ground running, not just capable of meeting the world head on but desperate to take it on and kick the shit out of it.

 

Kids need to be allowed a certain amount of latitude to do their own thing. Too many rules and the kid is stifled, not enough rules and the kid turns out to be a ned. I'm a firm believer that a kid needs to be allowed to do a certain amount of 'bad' stuff in order to become a confident go-getter. I'm also a firm believer that if your kid acts like a little arsehole then he needs dicipline.

 

The formative years are the most important, and if you're not up to the task of parenting then you don't have a kid.

 

Here's something I learned, and it's kind of related to my philosophy of making your kid proactive.

 

Many children who die in house fires are found right beside a window. They can't get the window open, and they're too scared to break the window in case they get into trouble... the result is they're overcome by the smoke and they die right next to an escape route. That, to me, is fucking heartbreaking. That children can be so terrified of getting into trouble or 'breaking rules' that the kid ends up dead.

 

The point I'm making, in a roundabout way, is that you only get proactive adults by creating proactive children. but there's a middle ground you have to look for. Too much leeway and you get a kid who ends up in prison or is directionless, not enough and you get a kid who is scared of rules, and anything alien to them is a terror.

 

There has to be an element in us all, every one of us, that basically says, "Fuck you." There should be cynicism as a matter of course, so when someone in 'authority' tells you something it is, without exception, questioned and scrutinised.

 

I don't know, the guy who wrote that article sounds like he lacks a bit of focus, which is fine, so long as he's happy and doing stuff he enjoys.

 

Regardless of what he says, you DO only get one shot at this, so there's no point being miserable.

[terenceandphilip]

I might read the article again, but last night i liked it. Good point above about the confusion between cyncism and negativity - relevant to me just now lol.

 

 

I think the author is symptomatic of societal and economic changes tbh. There was an excellent article on the bbc recently by an american writer. The guy was of the baby boomer generation as we call it, and was just saying half the friends he had at high school did easy/soft option college / university and subsequent law qualification and did alright in life with not too much effort. Nice house, kids, affordable lifestyle. It simply isn't the case any more he said and it looks like the author fits into that equation. Still, he's amusing and erudite and I liked him.

 

What to do with your life is one interesting question. I mean most of it gets swallowed up in surviving - we all have bills to pay and jobs that take up half our lives. Add in kids and it's a done deal. Paul Merton did a series from China and the Orient on tv and an old woman came up to him in China and told him he didn't have children (without knowing) and said he must as life wasn't fullfilled without them. That fascinated me, she just knew.

 

These days of course, people decide to have children. My parents generation just had them without thinking.

[The Boofon]

It's a bit odd that he tells you not to listen to any advice anyone gives you.

 

Isn't that advice?

 

Should I ignore it?

[The Hulk]

It's a bit odd that he tells you not to listen to any advice anyone gives you.

 

Isn't that advice?

 

Should I ignore it?

I was thinking the exact same thing.

The best bit of advice I ever got was "I'll give you all the advice you ever need, but you don't ever have to take it".

[amancalledbuck]

I gave up at 'wacky'.

 

Sorry.

[Bluto10]

Article is too long for here, would have been better putting it on mad.

 

I gave up after 30 seconds.

 

i didnt even open it, but then i dinna do reading.

[daytripping]

i didnt even open it, but then i dinna do reading.

 

Any more than half a dozen lines and I don't bother, what's the point!

 

Reading stuff is for the weak, I'd rather have a pint.