Make-Up Sex Is Bad For You. Apparently.

[looksgoodinred]

Who knew?

 

In general, make-up sex is bad news because it reinforces fighting and emotional drama. Think about it: If you have amazing sex after you have a huge fight, doesn't it make sense to fight again when the reward is so great?

 

And Dr. Seth thinks that the impulse to cap a fight in a passionate floor-bang is motivated by that same part of the brain that makes you want martinis when you've had a crap day at work. An emollient.

 

I particularly love Dr. Seth's suggestion for how to deal with the situation, should you find yourself having make-up sex:

 

Should you find yourself in the middle of a sexual encounter and suddenly realize that you feel confused, angry or sad, gently pull back and explain to your partner that you want to stop and try again later. If your partner pushes you to explain in that moment exactly what's going on with you, simply say "I'm not sure, but I know that it'll make sense to me a little later." These moments can be difficult and uncomfortable, but checking in with yourself and communicating honestly and directly is the best way to keep the problem from snowballing.

 

if i'm there, i'm staying til i'm done. can you imagine your partner's face if you said that to him/her?

 

so make-up sex. will you now avoid it, knowing it may be emotionally unhealthy for you?

 

 

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201205/make-sex-hurts-why-and-how-avoid-it

[tup]

Never done it.

 

When I fall out with someone, I fall out with them.

 

Last thing I'd want at that moment is to shag them.

[bonzodaddy73]

It's my favourite kind of sex. bonzo won't be changing.

[looksgoodinred]

Never done it.

 

When I fall out with someone, I fall out with them.

 

Last thing I'd want at that moment is to shag them.

 

you've never, ever had an argument with your partner? not fallen out, but just been out of sorts?

[The Boofon]

Who knew?

 

In general, make-up sex is bad news because it reinforces fighting and emotional drama. Think about it: If you have amazing sex after you have a huge fight, doesn't it make sense to fight again when the reward is so great?

 

And Dr. Seth thinks that the impulse to cap a fight in a passionate floor-bang is motivated by that same part of the brain that makes you want martinis when you've had a crap day at work. An emollient.

 

I particularly love Dr. Seth's suggestion for how to deal with the situation, should you find yourself having make-up sex:

 

Should you find yourself in the middle of a sexual encounter and suddenly realize that you feel confused, angry or sad, gently pull back and explain to your partner that you want to stop and try again later. If your partner pushes you to explain in that moment exactly what's going on with you, simply say "I'm not sure, but I know that it'll make sense to me a little later." These moments can be difficult and uncomfortable, but checking in with yourself and communicating honestly and directly is the best way to keep the problem from snowballing.

 

if i'm there, i'm staying til i'm done. can you imagine your partner's face if you said that to him/her?

 

so make-up sex. will you now avoid it, knowing it may be emotionally unhealthy for you?

 

 

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201205/make-sex-hurts-why-and-how-avoid-it

 

I cannot take any of that seriously simply because it's written by the same Doctor that wrote Cat in the Hat.

[tup]

you've never, ever had an argument with your partner? not fallen out, but just been out of sorts?

 

 

Only boofon will appreciate why I'm laughing here.

 

Sorry but I can't explain any further than that.

[looksgoodinred]

I cannot take any of that seriously simply because it's written by the same Doctor that wrote Cat in the Hat.

 

Dr. Seth Meyers to be exact is the doctor in question here. I had shortened it assuming you'd read the link to the article, but probably shouldn't have. And Cat in the Hat was Dr. Seuss, was it not?

[looksgoodinred]

 

Only boofon will appreciate why I'm laughing here.

 

Sorry but I can't explain any further than that.

 

is that because Boofon is your real life partner?!!!

[The Boofon]

 

Only boofon will appreciate why I'm laughing here.

 

Sorry but I can't explain any further than that.

 

 

Yep and as you're currently in court on a retrial my lips are sealed Nat. :thumbs:

[360]

Never done it.

 

No surprise there then.

 

Have you ever fallen out with someone, though?

[dj_bollocks]

Surely Made Up Sex is bad for you... And believe me I should know...

[looksgoodinred]

Surely Made Up Sex is bad for you... And believe me I should know...

 

will it cause blindness?

[tup]

Have you ever fallen out with someone, though?

 

On a daily basis chief, love nothing better than clear the air talks with anyone.

[looksgoodinred]

On a daily basis chief, love nothing better than clear the air talks with anyone.

 

On a daily basis, love nothing better than great sex. :thumbs:

 

but each to their own.

[tup]

I prefer arguments to sex.

[looksgoodinred]

I prefer arguments to sex.

 

why am i not surprised you'd say that?

but you do make one smile.

 

have a great night, Tup!

[dervish]

It's kinda like their argument is, don't do it, you'll like it too much.

 

Both sides love it, get stuck in. What else "I'll make you a cup of tea?".

[spamspamspam]

will it cause blindness?

 

nope

 

just a muscular imbalance.

[Pash]

I've never had sex before.

 

I only make love.

[Ke1t]

why am i not surprised you'd say that?

but you do make one smile.

 

That's one more than I'd have suspected.

 

[muttondressedaslamb]

I've never had sex before.

 

I only make love.

 

men who openly admit to 'making love' should be shot

[Coopy100]

I've never had sex before.

 

I only make love.

I fuck rather than make love.

[The Highland Don]

I've never had sex before.

 

I only make love.

 

I couldn't stop laughing at this for a few minutes, mainly because as soon as I read it, I noticed the O RLY owl in your display pic and was thinking the same

[Bluto10]

 

 

Last thing I'd want at that moment is to shag them.

 

even if its boooffon?

[dj_bollocks]

will it cause blindness?

 

Sorry, let me get my glasses...

[looksgoodinred]

Sorry, let me get my glasses...

 

at least you're not completely blind yet. :thumbs:

[tup]

why am i not surprised you'd say that?

but you do make one smile.

 

have a great night, Tup!

 

I did indeed have a great night, as usual.

 

Another great one coming up tonight, canna wait.

[looksgoodinred]

I did indeed have a great night, as usual.

 

Another great one coming up tonight, canna wait.

 

always good to hear! :thumbs:

[Bluto10]

Another great one coming up tonight, canna wait.

 

a night infront of the laptop and afc chat, aye?

[tup]

Springtime is my favourite time of year.

 

I go out for some exercise at night and laugh surreptitiously at those flabby arsed bastards who've suddenly taken it upon themselves to invest in these what seem to be fashionable pink and bright yellow luminous running outfits, and have suddenly taken to the streets to shed the flab piled on over winter.

 

I bet they spend 100 x more in money pounds on all the gear than they lose in weight pounds from buying it.

 

They're pishing on a forest fire, it's too late.

 

You should exercise all year round is my message to these lazy bastards with too much money, and no motivation, but full of good intentions.

 

Until you slap a cream cake in front of their faces.