Do You Have Kids/ Would You Recommend Having Kids?

[Poodler]

Popped up in a few threads now, this debate.

 

Obviously, I don't have kids. I'm incredibly selfish and like to please myself. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Though it irks people around me who chose to have kids and spend their time telling me to 'grow up' etc.

 

Those with kids, do you regret it? do you advise it? When/ why? Is it really 'the most amazing experience in the world' etc?

[The Boofon]

They are ace.

 

All this pish about folk having them because they are told they need to or it’s the right thing to do is just that. Complete pish.

 

Have them if you can have them but only if you want them.

[strachanmcgheegoal]

And don’t feel guilty if you don’t.

[Reed Till Deed]

Ive got one child , still live alone and please masel yet see ma bairn all time shes got one and another on the way cuz shes 27.....lang as ye look after em canna see an issue, its about looking after them and providing and if yer like me pleasin yersel ana.....best oh baith worlds, if thats what ye prefer canna see a prob.....knock yersel oot

[Poodler]

SS

Aye told him to never speak to me again this week after another sanctimonious outburst

[YorkDon]

They change your life for the better in my opinion and give you a purpose-ie to raise the next generation of Dandies.

The start is tough though,but when their wee personalities start showing it’s great.

It’s nae all plain sailing like and there are some tough times,parenting lessons to learn etc,but I wouldn’t change having my daughter-even though she can be a nightmare at times.

[1903Fitba]

No. Will one day as long as my swimmers swim.

 

Always thought I’d want them around 30 but the closer I get the more I think otherwise.

[Poodler]

Every chance I do have one somewhere with the amount of unprotected sex back in the day. Anyone else think they have a kid they don’t know about? Must be quite likely.

Left one in an orange bin recently

[manboobs109]

Not if you don't want to. It's really not as bad as people make out though.

[Redforever86]

I’d shag the 50+ yank bird who just walked past me

[Zeus]

1 and 1 on the way. Terrific. Keeps me on my toes

 

Do drive me absolutely mental at times but wouldn't have it any other way

 

2 is my limit though. May get the snip

[For Fecks Sake]

Have 2 and its the toughest but best thing we have done. First few years were fucking awful but now they are into football, cycling, swimming and hold a proper conversation it's decent.

 

Each stage of development brings its own rewards and new troubles but on the whole I love the little buggers.

[Bluto10]

Go for it Poodz

 

you won’t regret it

 

[Arabian Knight]

u regretted it cos ye goat telt tae cut yer drinkin back

[Bluto10]

prob escalated

 

lol

 

[Reed or deed]

Haein yer ane bairns is ace.

Get them to go to the shop and stuff.

[dazzy_deff]

Got one and planning another.

 

Kids are ace. They drive you nuts at times but no better feeling than when they come up to you randomly, hug you and say "love you daddy".

 

Wouldn't change it for anything. Pain in the ass playing hide and seek for 2 hours like.

[Dom Sullivan]

Got one and planning another.

Kids are ace. They drive you nuts at times but no better feeling than when they come up to you randomly, hug you and say "love you daddy".

Wouldn't change it for anything. Pain in the ass playing hide and seek for 2 hours like.

I think when you’re asked to find a “hidey hole” I don’t think that’s what they mean double D

[Bluto10]

Got one and planning another.

Kids are ace. They drive you nuts at times but no better feeling than when they come up to you randomly, hug you and say "love you daddy".

Wouldn't change it for anything. Pain in the ass playing hide and seek for 2 hours like.

 

Project kick off meeting scheduled?

any stage gates in place?

 

Q1 2020, yeah?

[Bluto10]

Got one and planning another.

Kids are ace. They drive you nuts at times but no better feeling than when they come up to you randomly, hug you and say "love you daddy".

Wouldn't change it for anything. Pain in the ass playing hide and seek for 2 hours like.

 

Project kick off meeting scheduled?

any stage gates in place?

 

Q1 2020, yeah?

[Dom Sullivan]

Being serious for a minute and in answer to Poodler, there’s nothing like the feeling when your kids are born.

 

Perhaps not for everyone but yes, I’m my view, best thing to happen.

 

Of course, life doesn’t always deal you a fair hand so you have to be prepared to take the rough with the smooth and no one says having kids will be easy.

 

Sometimes the hand you are dealt will affect the rest of your life and sacrifices have to be made but you aren’t given any guarantees in life and have to make the best of things.

 

Personally, wouldn’t have wanted not to have kids.

[Zeus]

Ive said before though.

The birth is shit.

No place for a man.

Agreed.

 

Come in when it’s done, cut the cord, leave

[Bluto10]

Ive said before though.

The birth is shit.

No place for a man.

3 mins late for me.

 

#goooooodtiming

[Clydeside_Sheep]

Those with kids, do you regret it? do you advise it? When/ why? Is it really 'the most amazing experience in the world' etc?

 

I have 2 and want a 3rd.

 

Its the best thing in the world, because it is what life is all about.  It is what we are ordered to, the fruit of our relationships. Accordingly then, it is exceptionally fulfilling.

 

Watching them grow and discover things keeps you young.  You see the world through fresh eyes.  Everything is astonishing to them and worthy of investigation. Astonishment is what adults lack in their own lives and can lead them to become jaded and cynical.

 

The scales fall from your eyes and you see what is really important in life.  Not work, status or wealth, but gumsy smiles, dirty faces, runny noses, giggles, cuddles and carrying on.

 

Sure, it can be trying, tiring and expensive - but a great serenity and bliss over-ride these.

 

There's no right answer to "when?" beyond the obvious basic requirements of the mother and father in a committed relationship and able to provide a child's material needs. 

[Clydeside_Sheep]

Ive said before though.

 

The birth is shit.

 

No place for a man.

 

That is true and apparently the presence of the father makes labour more difficulty for the mother, because he is a distraction and another thing to worry about.

 

I favour the traditional roles for a man, such as holding the fort at the pub, or enjoying a good sleep so that you are fresh as a daisy to meet the new offspring.

 

That said, I enjoy sitting about doing f-all and so have enjoyed being at the birth of my daughters.  The only downside is the random time - our first was during the night, but with the second I managed to get out the hospital post-birth and get a kebab on alexandra parade before closing time.

 

Whenever the midwife leaves the room, I always enjoy a good snork of the gas - like to get my moneys worth, as a taxpayer.  The wife usually mutters in response, in between contractions.

 

Our first 1 went overdue and ultimately had to be induced.  This was on a friday - they were to give the wife several doses of an inducement drug and, all being well, they thought the baby would come on sunday. 

So I was sent home, "nothing will happen this evening, Mr CS" I was assured by the staff.  So I got a carry out and was tearing into it, in blessed peace, when I got a teary phone call from wife saying "its all happening" and I was to go back.  FFS!

 

I remember struggling into the place, hoping I was not stinking of booze

[daytripping]

The moment your child is born is the best feeling you will ever get, I've necked loads of amazing drugs in my time but nothing came close to that. When I went out for a smoke just as dawn was breaking after she was born, I sat down on the grass outside the hospital and never felt a feeling like it.

 

I'm now split with the ex but my daughter is a constant, she didn't hesitate moving from the family home to come with me, she's my best buddy in the World, without her my life wouldn't have much point. 

[daytripping]

In saying that, life with no kids gives you a freedom you could never have with children, I can see the benefit.

[Don Fonte]

Mine wasn't planned but as Dayts says after they're born the feeling is better than any drug i've ever had.

 

Changed my life completely, but ultimately for the better.  Don't get married though, that's shit.

 

Best time of my life has been since leaving the wife.  Still get to see the wee one heaps but heaps of time to myself to carry out the bedding of various ladies and have nights out/ trips away etc.

 

My opinion may change when my daughter becomes of an age when young scoundrels try and lead my daughter down the wrong path.  Then I will want to kill every male in the world if they so much as look at her.

[daytripping]

Mine wasn't planned but as Dayts says after they're born the feeling is better than any drug i've ever had.

 

Changed my life completely, but ultimately for the better.  Don't get married though, that's shit.

 

Best time of my life has been since leaving the wife.  Still get to see the wee one heaps but heaps of time to myself to carry out the bedding of various ladies and have nights out/ trips away etc.

 

My opinion may change when my daughter becomes of an age when young scoundrels try and lead my daughter down the wrong path.  Then I will want to kill every male in the world if they so much as look at her.

 

Is she on POF yet? I'm getting bored with my go to one's. Thanks in advance.

[Don Fonte]

Is she on POF yet? I'm getting bored with my go to one's. Thanks in advance.

She's only 9, more into unicorns and Barbie at the minute tbh min.